If your ring finger is as bare as the day you were born, I have a simple request...put a friggin' ring on it! I know it's a personal choice and all, but I think it serves a purpose. Among these are publicly acknowledging your commitment to your spouse and eliminating false advertising. Believe me, you know at least one person who goes ring-less to be able to enjoy the benefits of single life, if only for one night...or convention. Not that a ring is some sort of super shield against infidelity, but at least it serves as a deterrent to women with scruples.
"A man never wore a wedding ring prior to the Second World War. At that time, it became customary for soldiers serving overseas to wear a wedding band to remind them of home, and their commitment to their wives and families."
Source: Men's wedding rings - should a man wear one or not?
You know how I feel about blanket statements, so clearly this does not apply to all men. Not all married men who choose not to wear a ring do so with any ulterior motive in mind. Perhaps I'm making a big deal out of nothing, what do you think?
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Interesting article on the subject ~ The Meaning of a Naked Finger: When married men don’t wear a wedding ring, what message are they sending?
31 points of view:
No, I don't think you're making a big deal out of it a lot of men, don't wear rings for the very reasons you listed. My dad doesn't wear his to work but that's b/c he's a mechanic & the ring would get messed up, plus he's been with Moms Dukes for 30yrs...he ain't goin nowhere (I hope)(He better not).
I agree. I've started to wear a ring on my left finger that resembles a wedding ring. I've found that it helps. Before, women would be looking at me smiling, constantly crossing their legs, and walking past me to go to the bathroom. But with my ring, they seem to see me as taken already and check out other guys in the bar, club or restaurant.
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I don't think you're making a bid deal out of it. The ring is [[supposed to be]] a symbol of the marriage - why would a man want to NOT wear it? (disregarding situations like LoudPen's father). But if you're out and about and you're my husband I expect you to be wearin that thang and SMILIN. lol
I grew up Seventh Day Adventist and we don't use the wedding ring in our ceremony. The custom is actually pagan. Most SDA Christians don't wear jewelry so I was not in the habit of wearing jewelry. I didn't own a ring. My then Fiance asked me to wear one so I do. I also wear an ankh and sometimes earrings. Point is...If someone told me they were married that was enough for me but it does come in handy. The Ring I mean.
Jaycee
I never wore the wedding bands from either of my marriages. My guess was that I wanted attention since I never flirted or cheated. The funny thing is that I now wear a band from my GF and feel naked without it.
It's tradition so I think it should be followed.
Go ahead CurvyGurl! People who are married should wear a ring. I don't understand why they don't.
I think a married man should wear his ring, unless for some reason he feels it may be damaged or loss, but sadly that is not the case in many situations. I remember when my ex took off his ring...it wasn't bc he wasn't married anymore...it was because he gave up on the conviction...thus in some way freeing himself. smh.
Good post! I don't think you're making a big deal about it. I've been married for 9 yrs and I ALWAYS wear my ring. The only time that I don't wear it is at the gym. If I was gonna do dirt, I would want to wear my ring so that a chick would know that I was married. That way...its out in the open if she chose to step to me.
However, we can't get it twisted. I know dudes who wear their wedding rings and they do more dirt than you could ever imagine.
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My husband and I both don't wear our wedding rings. We've gone through alot (no cheating though) and we used our rings as weapons (he took his off when he was mad at me, vice versa. Now we've overcome alot of issues and the rings just don't mean that much to us anymore I guess.
I'm with you sis...so many people argue the point about how it's only symbolic and if he's committed then why should he wear one...blah blah blah. It's SYMBOLIC...DUH! Like you said, it's a deterrent for women with scruples and yes, its a reminder of home, as well as that public town crying of your marital status. Everyone else in the world should know because it's literally you and your mate against it. Bravo, CG!
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If you are married you should HONOR that union and wear your ring. Period.
WTH! This is a trend now? LOL
I've been married for 10 yrs and never take off my ring...NEVER! Oh! When I shower I do; other than that it's on.
I think the only people excused are those like LoudPen's dad. I'll tell you what's worse: men (or women - I've seen them do it too) that try to hook up with someone with the ring ON!
I said a long time ago when I was about, I don't know, 15 or so, that I was doing this ONCE. I love my wife and think that to walk around without my ring on is an insult to the union and a slap in the face to my wife.
...MIIS...
I COMPLETELY agree! When I see an attractive man I always check for the ring. If there is no ring that I will approach. I don't want to approach anyone's husband. Wearing the ring lets us single gals know that you are not available.
I'm soooo GLAD you brought this up. I have noticed a LOT of men in the DMV do not wear their rings. I've noticed men that I know are married who do not wear their rings. Its false advertising and kind of sketch to me.
That's right, CurvyGurl! Call it like it is. Not every man is guilty of this but those who are, please honor your queen with your actions!!
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If you're married, wear your ring - in town. If you're out of town, you can take it off. I'm kidding.
hmmm... i do not think its a big deal out of nothing. However i think more emphasis needs to be put on the reason your wearing it. Contrary to popular belief a piece of gold (or silver) does not make you married. More focus should be to the oath that you swore during the ceremony. In ancient times breaking an oath meant death... those must have been the golden years. lol
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I always wear my ring...I've been married for twenty years. I'm not ashamed of being married..
It was my decision. I haven't taken this ring off in years..and now I don't know if I could get it off if I wanted to. lolol
I've only been married a couple of years. I have a slight allergic reaction to the metal that flares up from time to time and I believe and my finger sometimes swells around it at night when I'm sleeping so I take it off and leave it on the nightstand. But I feel naked on the other side of my front door without it. My wife has left the house numerous times without hers, leaving in a rush, etc. etc., but me? Not once, not yet.
I wrote about the same thing over at BlackAndMarriedWithKids.com several months ago. This was a hot topic over there as well.
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I don't think rings symbolize honor or faithfulness to anyone but those OUTSIDE the marriage. It's almost like baptism...it's not necessary for salvation, but it's a public display of one's belief in God's death, burial, and resurrection.
Now, if you proposed this question five months ago, my comment would be different. Hubby recently broke his ring and I made a HUGE deal out of it (lol). HUGE! I eventually took mine off and neither of us have worn a ring since that day. It's all about what you wear on your heart - not your finger.
Greeeeeat topic!
Your not making a big deal out of it, but it's definetly up to the couple. These are the things that the couple should talk about well before the propose to one another. As long as they agree to the terms set forth than wearing or not wearing a ring shouldn't be a problem.
Mixed feelings on this one. While I wear my ring religiously, it's not the thing that makes me married. It is my commitment to my wife and family that keeps me honest. Sure, a ring is a symbol, but different strokes for different folks. I think that good men may be stereotyped for not wearing a ring. If there is any doubt, just ask the right questions. Most people are not fools and the truth will come to light.
Hey Doll!
I don't think you're making a big deal out of this. Though your commitment is the real test of your relationship, the Ring is the symbol of that. My husband doesn't wear his ring to work because he works for sanitation and it can slip off but when he gets home, on it goes
I wrote a longer post the first time but your site and I are not friends right now so it ate it. :P
I'm just gonna buy a cute ring for my damn self!!! I'm fab! Why wait for a dude to give me one!
XoXO
i think any married man who doesn't wear a ring is suspect!
It's just a ring, a piece of metal. Oh yeah, it symbolizes something, but ultimately it means nothing.
I think mine is either in the bottom of my drawer or on the dresser somewhere......at least I hope I didn't lose it again.
Great Post! I have a friend who is allergic even to gold. He does not wear a ring. Some men have told me that the ring is actually somex a MAGNET. Unfortunately there is a segment of society that targets married men because they say they get all the perks of the relationship w/o the burden of the dirty laundry etc. SMH
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